Just stop. Just breathe.
If someone else has an attitude problem and you were upset by their behaviour it is okay. Forgive them. Forgive yourself and let it go. It means next to nothing. It wasn't about you. Using any kind of faith, or belief, or spirituality to punish yourself is such a drain on the loving kindness you want to send out. Being tolerant of others is infinitely easier if you extend that tolerance, unconditional positive regard and love to yourself. If someone is being a jerk, maybe what they need is for you to let them know! They might be so lost in their own bad mood they didn't realize that they were being a jerk (they still might not care, but that is not in your control).
If you go out of your way to look for the bad in people you will always find it, even if you are looking at your self.
Take a few deep breathes and if you have the time close your eyes for a moment.
Visualize a big bowl full of water. See it clearly, then see a drop of water making ripples on the surface. Then allow the surface to still again. See soothe still water. Working with your breath, breathe in this stillness as PEACE and as you exhale feel the tension release from your body. If the anxiety or anger return, drop another drip into the water and repeat the process. Anger is pain. Are you angry at what happened or something else? Let all these feelings dissolve in this cool calm water.
As part of your daily practice it might be a good idea to return to working with water and it's spirits to help remove this need to blame anyone for how you feel or what you think. Yes mindfulness is important, but looking for the best in other has no benefit if you do not look for the best in yourself. You are growing and it is an imperfect process and sometimes we make mistakes but that is part of the process not outside of it. Peace is about stillness, breath through the ripples, they pass, they always pass. Stillness is our natural state. The ripples are not wrong, they just are, just as the stillness just is.
The past is past, ghosts of ripples and are not important right at this moment. The future is not important right now, only the soothe water.
Now open you eyes. Smile and continue your day.
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